how to love yourself

how to love yourself

If I asked you to name 3 things you love about yourself, would you find it easy? What about if I asked you to name 3 things you don’t like about yourself..? A bit easier right?

Our relationship with our Self, sets the tone for every other relationship in our life. How can we expect others to love us, if we don’t love ourselves?

Think of a time when you had a child or a pet to care for. How much love and attention did you give to it? Our loved ones are so precious to us that we want to take care of them and make sure they have the healthiest food, the best sleep, adequate rest and exercise. Why don’t we give this same level of care and attention to ourselves? Don’t we deserve it?
How many times have you looked in the wrong places for love and validation? Only to end up feeling hurt or rejected. How would you feel if you gave yourself the love you so willingly give to everyone else? Isn’t it time that you started to love yourself more?

In a World where our media is constantly selling us the myth that we are not enough, Self-love is a radical act of defiance.
You don’t need anyone’s approval or blessing. You are AMAZING, just the way you are.

When you can love yourself this way, it has a positive effect on everyone around you. You are so full of love, that there is an abundance of it to spread around. I think the World needs more of that!

Here are my top 10 ways to love yourself more:

1.) Breathe deeply, and consciously. It sounds simple, but taking regular breaks throughout your day to fill and empty your lungs is a great way of loving Self. It can lift your mood, improve your posture, and reduce stress and anxiety.
2.) Eat healthy. Re-frame how you look at eating fruit and vegetables. Instead of seeing it as something you have to do, see it as a way to lovingly nourish your body and Soul. Remove or cut down on processed foods, and start to cook from scratch more, so that you know what you are actually putting into your body.
3.) Exercise. Keep your body healthy and strong. If you feel good physically, you are much more likely to feel good mentally and have kinder thoughts about yourself. Exercising is also great for improving mood and self-esteem.
4.) Drink more water. The simple act of drinking more water improves memory and mood, reduces sugar cravings, improves exercise performance, reduces headaches, and improves energy levels and brain function. Love yourself and try to drink 2 litres of water every day.
5.) Prioritise sleep. Sleep is such an important part of a healthy lifestyle. Every time you sleep less than you need, it is affecting your physical health and can result in irritability and low mood. Love yourself enough to make sure you get enough good shut eye.
6.) Set boundaries. Explore and learn what your boundaries are and practice expressing these to friends and loved ones. Setting your boundaries ensures your needs are met, and you have time and energy to things that nourish and bring joy to your body, mind and spirit.
7.) Practice affirmations. Re-program negative self-talk by practicing affirmations daily. Here are my top 5 affirmations to love yourself more. Say them with feeling and energy for best results.
8.) Take care of your hygiene and appearance. Instead of making yourself look nice for the benefit of others, do it for yourself, as an act of Self-love. That top you have been saving for a special occasion?  Go ahead and let today and loving yourself be the special occasion!  Shave your legs for YOU, put on make up for YOU, clean and de-clutter your living space for YOU.
9.) Find your purpose. Figure out what lights you up, and do more of it. Having a strong sense of purpose. What were you put on this planet to do? How can you give back to your community/humanity?
10.) Take time to rest. Set aside time each day and week to rest and restore. Some time just for you, where you don’t have to think about anything. Balance periods of activity and achievement, with rest and pampering.

“You can search the entire Universe and you will never find someone more deserving of your love than You.” – Buddha